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Celibacy in Marriage

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Celibacy in marriage was ordained by God Almighty for those travellers of spiritual path who wanted to reach God even while remaining in Grihastha ashram (family life)! Celibacy primarily relates to male celibacy as women are not required to practice female celibacy! The intention behind practice of physical celibacy always was abstaining from sexual indulgence. But is it the only cosmic truth behind act of celibacy?

The physical aspect of celibacy constitutes 10% of total job... 90% celibacy always been practiced mentally! For reaching stage of self realization... god realization... enlightenment our transmuting sexual energy was an absolute must! This was only possible via path of physical celibacy... abstaining from a sexual relationship! By conserving this potential cosmic energy human beings succeeded in cutting shackles of karma forever.

Celibacy within marriage was difficult to practice as the other partner... the female partner may never agree to remain celibate! And why should one? To come out of this predicament God Almighty ordained a maximum of two sexual indulgences per month (one was desirable)! Bhagavad Gita of Hinduism is absolutely clear on this point. To focus on the spiritual goal of life... celibacy within marriage had to be practiced... we had no other alternative!

Speaking from personal experience I can only say... celibacy in marriage was extremely difficult to practice! To please the other partner while traveling path of spirituality seemed almost impossible... prime reason why sacred scriptures of Hinduism advised all travellers of spirituality to remain bachelors throughout life! While remaining in Grihastha ashram (family life)... celibacy truly was very difficult to practice... neigh impossible!

Ramana Maharishi... Swami Vivekananda remained bachelors all their life! Ramana Maharishi reached stage of enlightenment in his lifetime. Swami Vivekananda also could have easily gained enlightenment in his lifetime... had he wanted to! But goal of life for Swami Vivekananda was community service! Both Ramana Maharishi and Swami Vivekananda were perfect practitioners of Brahmacharya Vrata... remaining celibate on spiritual path!

Bhagavad Gita clearly states that path of spirituality... goal of enlightenment was never meant for ladies! Female celibacy was not a necessity for women unless they desired to travel path of pure spirituality. In the entire history of mankind only two women reached stage of enlightenment... saint philosopher Gargi and Maitreyi... the second dutiful wife of Sage Jnanavalakya... compiler and composer of most voluminous Upanishad Brihadarankya!

Ladies can gain enlightenment but it was even more difficult than men gaining enlightenment! Because of imbibed feeling of Moha (extreme emotional attachment) the path of spirituality... enlightenment was never meant for women! Vow of celibacy must always be undertaken by men... never women! Marital celibacy truly was a hazard... extremely difficult to practice! Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa and his wife Sharda lived more like brother and sister... than husband and wife! Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa worshipped his wife as an embodiment of goddess Kali!

Apart from travellers of spirituality... celibacy also played a vital role in lives of those who wanted to gain absolute success in life! In such cases both male and female celibacy was successful. By practising celibacy truthfully... every male and female could reach any goal of life fixed by them! By transmuting sexual energy towards the only goal of life... practitioners of celibacy truly can create wonders... manifest destiny forever!

By practising physical aspect of celibacy... one got different results than practising mental celibacy! For practitioners of mental celibacy... nothing was impossible in life! Any goal in life could be easily accomplished by practitioners of mental celibacy! By following path of mental celibacy as detailed in Bhagavad Gita of Hinduism, I finally realized God in 1993 at 37 years of which. This is my last manifestation on mother earth.

Having reached cosmic end of life... I shall enter kingdom of God (Vaikuntha in Hinduism)... the moment I leave my mortal frame! This stage when we as a soul atman gained absolute purity was termed moksha salvation. In Hinduism a soul is termed atman. Coping with celibacy while married though difficult... extremely difficult... was not impossible! If our goal of life was clear... nothing in world could sway us from reaching our goal in life.

This was how God Almighty ordained the spiritual system to be! In brief, I would again emphasize that celibacy must always be practiced with caution! The benefits of celibacy were numerous but it definitely affected family life! Celibacy in marriage must be practiced with utmost caution as our other partner may not be totally agreeable in the matter! But by indulging twice a month... one could easily follow precepts of celibacy as detailed in Bhagavad Gita!

For travellers of spiritual path my sincere advice is... never marry! For those who wanted to manifest absolute success in life... my only advice is... practice celibacy in marriage with caution! Both marriage and celibacy can go hand-in-hand if the female partner agreed to it in totality! But in most cases... the female partner would never agree for such an arrangement! In such cases coping with celibacy in married life becomes a serious problem leading to depression!

It is our life... it is our journey! We have to decide our goal of life. If we take firm decisions in the early stages of life... we would never suffer from depression in later stages! To avoid depression in celibacy... we must indulge in celibacy as and whenever possible... never strictly imposing it on other partner! Celibacy must always be practiced voluntarily... never by force! Voluntary celibacy was always successful compared to forced celibacy as practiced in churches.

Essay by: Vijay Kumar "Atma Jnani" ... The Man who Realized God in 1993! Send your query!

A to Z of Celibacy in Marriage explained in words everyone can easily understand and fathom. More on marriage and celibacy - marriage and celibacy can be found at : Celibacy ... Vijay Kumar - 17 July 2012.

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