Query: Leave our family to achieve what we desire in this life? All our sacred
scriptures advice us to fulfill duties to our parents, wife, children and other relations.What is the
Any prayer to God has to be unconditional always and ever! No prayer to
God can simply have any strings attached! Such prayers would not get accepted... the path to God is
one-sided... it is we who need self realization in our journey towards God... not God Almighty! Whatever be
our karma... the total results of our karma belong to us
I have always is stated... I would have! Even if God desired my leaving
the family in between... would I have! How could have I attained god realization without burning my karma in
totality! I was always prepared to walk the extra step... take extra pains but leaving the family in between
without the permission of God Almighty was never in question... always ruled out.
The day I asked permission from both of my girls, "that I wanted to leave
the confines of the family in search of God... for the betterment of the society" they simply could not
understand what I was talking of! Young girls were totally caught unaware! Both of them... quite young kept
weeping for almost three days in continuation!
No school... nothing on earth could persuade them! They had the mettle
and grit their father was made of! They were not willing to accept anything for an answer except my will to
continue in the family as their father. I only sought their permission... I would never have left them
lurking alone in the dark. They were young... simply unable to understand the gist of the matter!
The moment I clarified to them that never in life would I leave without
their permission... they felt consoled! But their life changed forever... probably the absolute faith they
had in their father was shattered. For the balance of my physical manifest life I shall always regret that
day! My presentation of the matter to them probably was wrong!
How could children eight to 10 years of age understand such a delicate
matter! Their father all of a sudden wanting to leave them all alone! Life in the physical manifest world at
times becomes difficult to handle. We need to burn our karma in totality... we need to absolve ourselves of
our karma in totality before thinking of leaving the confines of the family!
In the scriptures the responsibility of the parents ends after marriage
of children. Even if the children are not married... parents are necessitated to take care of their children
up to about 25 years of age. Thereafter it is free for all. Choosing our goal of life in married life... in
Grihastha ashram (family life) is a very delicate matter.
We simply cannot leave the confines of the family by touching the feet of
the wife and child as Siddhartha Gautama did. If we try leaving the confines of the family without burning
our karma in totality... we would never get near our goal ever! In the domain of God such workings are
absolutely prohibited! We need take care of our responsibilities in the physical manifest life.
Until now... I am bound by the responsibilities of life! My younger
daughter is still to be married! The moment I am over with my responsibilities... I shall proceed towards a
bigger goal of life... the final... something that becomes clear to the masses around 2014! It is a different
matter that living in family life I gained self-realization... something really difficult in modern
How many times I had to eat hell for breakfast... how many contemplations
of suicide... I simply have lost account! Life in the spiritual domain is walking an uncharted territory...
full of hurdles and charms! We never know when a Maneka might seduce us on the way! At every stage of life
there is not one but many Manekas wanting to stop us from undertaking the arduous journey!
Sage Vishwamitra on the sight of a beautiful maiden taking bath in
forlorn jungles lost himself! He had to undergo a practice of celibacy again for a period of 12 years in
continuation! Before you embark on the spiritual path... form a definite goal in life! Visualize all the
difficulties you might encounter on the way... be prepared to tackle them head-on!
Living in Grihastha ashram (family life) is one realizes self... there is
nothing better than that! We can definitely travel the spiritual journey as and when we desire but must
always remain prepared for the consequences... the untoward happenings which we never anticipated or thought
of! God Almighty ordained a journey of 12.1 million earthly years for human beings to gain enlightenment
(kaivalya jnana) and finally salvation (moksha)!
To cut short the journey is really noble but extremely difficult! There
is no query on the spiritual path that I would not be able to answer. You are welcome to address any query as
and when you desire! I would never advise one to follow the spiritual path... leaving family responsibilities
midway! We must address our responsibilities properly before traveling the ultimate path of life... the path
to gaining enlightenment and finally salvation!
More Path to Gaining Enlightenment related links...
Gaining Enlightenment Gained Enlightenment - Brahma Jnana Atma Jnana - Enlightenment and
Karma - Enlightenment Kaivalya Jnana
Self Realization Hinduism - Stage of Enlightenment Nirvikalpa
May God bless all!
Always there to clarify your queries (send your query),
Vijay Kumar "Atma Jnani" ... The Man who Realized God in 1993!
A to Z of Path to Gaining Enlightenment explained in words everyone can easily understand and
fathom. More on self realization can be found at : Spiritual Enlightenment
... Vijay Kumar - 5 June 2010.
Full text of query: In a couple of articles you mentioned that you
did not hesitate to leave your family (including your beloved daughters) to achieve what you desire to in
this life. All our sacred scriptures advice us to fulfill our duties to our parents, co-borns, wife, children
and other relations. Parents need to be taken care of in their old-age. Wife and children cannot be
abandoned. I feel that it will be extremely selfish on our part just to seek solace and self-realisation
without caring and tending to our family responsibilities?
Can you please help me with the dilemma?
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